Trust. Now that's one BIG word! It cements every relationship we have in this world. Trust is rare to come by, hard to keep and when once lost, really difficult to regain. To trust someone is like letting someone in on to your secrets - every little thing that you normally would hide and think a million times before speaking them out. So, in a way it makes two people, who would have been just two strangers into two friends. Building trust comes naturally. It is the things we do, the thoughts we hear, the words we speak and the way we make others feel around us that makes them trust us. The process for most is slow and steady. Some trust people too fast and it is broken fast enough as well. Not to say, those who take time to trust do not get betrayed or aren't left disappointed. They are too. That's how we learn to trust truly. If our trust has been broken several times that it becomes difficult for us to trust someone else or someone new. It becomes harder every time out trust is broken.
With some people it becomes easy to trust. Like for once, most people trust their immediate family members. I for one do trust my sister and my brother a lot. I know I can count on them and I know whatever they say or do would be in my best interest, even if sometimes I may not see it at that point in time. Then there are friends we count on and trust a lot as well. Not all of them dependable. Not all of them are trustworthy. Every friend has a special place and a special role in our lives. Even the most neglected ones show us our ways sometimes when we are lost. Therein lies the 'wonder factor' of life. It never fails to surprise you!
Trust determines the growth of our relationship, whether romantic, sexual or platonic. Secrets maybe the harbinger of trust in any relationship. But secrets are the killers of trust as well. What we choose to reveal and what we choose to hide shapes up the kind of relationship we build with the person concerned. Secrets are like codes which need not be revealed to all. A mystery is always a welcomed thing. The secret when out should not disappoint. So one needs to know the audience to whom the secret is being revealed. The maturity, the level of comfort and all, need to be taken into account while sharing a part of you with others. It does backfires sometimes. After all we can't always have the best judgement about us or about others in our lives. The one we thought would understand, don't. The one in whom we put our trust in, disappoints. It is but natural. But that doesn't mean we stop trying. That doesn't mean we stop putting our trust in others. If we cannot trust the people we have surrounded ourselves with in our lives, then we are as good as being all alone. If we seek friends, if we look for company, we have to know too that a relationship can only forge ahead if cemented by trust.
And it all depends on the question you ask yourself.
Are you trustworthy?
Can you trust?
The trouble is most people tend to ask the wrong question.
With some people it becomes easy to trust. Like for once, most people trust their immediate family members. I for one do trust my sister and my brother a lot. I know I can count on them and I know whatever they say or do would be in my best interest, even if sometimes I may not see it at that point in time. Then there are friends we count on and trust a lot as well. Not all of them dependable. Not all of them are trustworthy. Every friend has a special place and a special role in our lives. Even the most neglected ones show us our ways sometimes when we are lost. Therein lies the 'wonder factor' of life. It never fails to surprise you!
Trust determines the growth of our relationship, whether romantic, sexual or platonic. Secrets maybe the harbinger of trust in any relationship. But secrets are the killers of trust as well. What we choose to reveal and what we choose to hide shapes up the kind of relationship we build with the person concerned. Secrets are like codes which need not be revealed to all. A mystery is always a welcomed thing. The secret when out should not disappoint. So one needs to know the audience to whom the secret is being revealed. The maturity, the level of comfort and all, need to be taken into account while sharing a part of you with others. It does backfires sometimes. After all we can't always have the best judgement about us or about others in our lives. The one we thought would understand, don't. The one in whom we put our trust in, disappoints. It is but natural. But that doesn't mean we stop trying. That doesn't mean we stop putting our trust in others. If we cannot trust the people we have surrounded ourselves with in our lives, then we are as good as being all alone. If we seek friends, if we look for company, we have to know too that a relationship can only forge ahead if cemented by trust.
And it all depends on the question you ask yourself.
Are you trustworthy?
Can you trust?
The trouble is most people tend to ask the wrong question.
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